A little bit of a different topic of post today, I also haven't done a thoughtful thursday post in a while, but this got me thinking and I would love to know your thoughts.
I recently saw a programme on the TV in which they were speaking a mother and sister who had lost their son, brother. The teenage boy had been killed in what was suspected to be racially based. The boy had his family had grown up with his killers and the mother and sisters reaction to these people who had killed their loved had such a big impact when I heard them.
They forgave the people that killed their son/brother. The boys sister said that it took a lot more energy to hate them. They were never going to forget, however, they could forgive. The mother described it as dragging a suitcase filled with all these emotions and the best way to deal with this weight is to off load it.
This example is obviously very extreme and people with have different views towards it. For me personally unless you are in that situation I think it is very hard to know how you would react. I like to think I give people a second chance and give forgiveness.
However I think forgiveness is a process you cant just be like I forgive that person because the next day you would probably not forgive them. It takes time and effort but if you forgive them then you no longer have to carry that problem/situation on your shoulders. However, I'm not sure to what extent I would give forgiveness. The most used sort of example is a partner committing adultery. Forgiveness? That is where the quote below fits well. That you can forgive them and forget what hurt you but remember what it taught you.
It takes a strong person to forgive. It isn't easy to give forgiveness. I always try to think that I would want people to forgive me if I made a mistake; everyone makes mistakes it is how we correct that mistake that matters and how others react to our mistake and if they accept our correction.